Beatrice
“I can say without a word of a lie, this programme has changed me. It has not only changed who I am at work but how I parent, my relationship with my husband, who I am as a daughter, sister and friend.”
Before working with Radha, I was plagued by crippling self-doubt and low confidence. I felt constantly on edge, dreading every shift at work, I felt overwhelmed guilty and powerless. My home life was also suffering as family and friends knew I was miserable. I felt trapped as after years of financial struggle as a student I was now bringing in a salary, a salary we badly needed.
I had been following Radha for a few years before I made contact. I had tried CBT in the past and I had a good understanding of challenging negative thought patterns, but this programme sounded different - the fusion of psychology hypnotherapy, NLP and CBT really appealed to me. I had spent several years studying for my supposed 'dream job' and I was contemplating walking away. I knew in order to look myself in the mirror (having studied for so long) I had to give the programme a chance.
From the first session I knew I had made the right decision choosing Radha. She was warm, compassionate and insightful. Working with a counsellor with a midwifery lens was beneficial, however, I believe the tools Radha gives you would help all women.
Initially I was sceptical as I couldn't see how an 8-week programme could achieve all that it claimed. I can't lie the cost of the programme was also a huge consideration for my family, but I viewed it as an investment in myself. I opted to pay over 6 months, which made the investment much more manageable.
When I signed up to the programme, I was doing so purely from a work perspective. I didn't appreciate that the work I was doing with Radha would infiltrate into other areas of my life.
My breakthrough came in week five. When I first called Radha, I made it clear I did not want to discuss childhood, and she was understanding of this request. However, the 'honest activity' involved looking at my core belief systems. It was this activity that helped me to see what was at the root of my low self-esteem. It was like the blinders came off and I was seeing myself for the first time. I remember describing this to Radha as having a seismic shift in how I was thinking and responding to situations.
Early on in the programme, a situation arose in work where I felt unable to implement the tools I had learned, and I felt frustrated with myself and thought 'this isn't working'. I remember sharing this experience and how I was feeling with Radha. She listened patiently and responded “you are on track” at the time this made me more frustrated, but I trusted her and the process, and I am so glad that I did!
At times this process has been emotionally difficult. There are points where you have to be introspective but that is where the growth lies. For me, the process has been truly enlightening.
Now I am at the end of the programme. I feel lighter. My mental health has improved dramatically. I am at a point where, with the right support, I can genuinely see myself coming off medication which I have been on for almost 8 years. Something I could never have imagined.
My life is very different now. The overly self-aware, people pleasing, perfectionist has gone. I am still a work in progress. I understand I will make mistakes but that is ok, it is part of being human. For me, I would say the most powerful thing that has changed is my relationship with myself. I am no longer berating myself. I am on a journey of learning to love myself. which Radha has helped me to realise is the foundation to high self-esteem.
Before the programme I was surviving day to day but now I am asking myself “what's next'? and only time will tell but I now have the self-belief to explore other career avenues within midwifery and if I decide clinical midwifery is not for me, it won't be because I can't do it, it will be because I don't want to do it which is a far more empowered place to be.
I would wholeheartedly recommend Radha and this programme to all women (not just midwives). If you are brave enough to look within and do the work, Radha will give you the tools to unlock limiting belief systems that are holding you back from living the life you want to lead. I would never have guessed this short programme could have had such as huge impact on my life. For me, the reward of this programme far outweighs the financial investment. I will be forever grateful to this kind, incredible woman who has given me the invaluable gift of starting to rewind decades of low self-esteem. Thank you, Radha xx
Ruby
“As soon as Radha’s face came up on my screen I felt at ease. It’s not easy telling someone how you feel and Radha made space for that. Her warm, positive attitude is what I felt I needed when discussing my deepest, darkest fears."
I would describe myself as feeling very isolated by anxiety before starting the coaching sessions. My anxiety felt out of control and like something that wasn’t a part of me/something I was struggling to accept. I felt like I was hiding in the shadows from it and assuming I had to accept it was a part of me.
My anxiety had reached a head to the extent that I was struggling to sleep and carry out my usual day to day activities. I felt so consumed and burdened by it. My mum reached out to Radha, who knew her through a social group and enquired about the service provided. My mum wanted to help me find a way in which I could take control and manage my anxiety.
As soon as Radha’s face came up on my screen for my initial consultation, I felt at ease. Its not easy telling someone how you feel and Radha made space for that. Radha made it clear we had to feel in agreement that we would work well together and that’s what made me feel reassured. Radha’s warm positive attitude it what I felt I needed when discussing my deepest darkest fears.
I was pessimistic that a coaching technique would work, would we click? Would Radha be willing to listen to my problems and not make my worries worse by confirming my fears. I felt untrusting that over 8 weeks my thinking could change in such a significant way. But now I just feel empowered and in control of my anxiety, and not feeling that I have to sit and wait for things to go wrong. I am in charge of my destiny.
Anxiety is about mindset/way of thinking. It's not a monster that controls you. With the right strategies/thinking methods you can and will change your perception.
I feel more emotionally developed now, with a new perspective as to how I can chose to see things. If you would’ve asked me about this a few months ago, I wouldn’t have believed you!
I recognise that I am still a work in progress and that my anxiety is a part of me, but something I can chose to manage in a positive way. I feel a lot more open about my struggles with friends and family and less alone in how I think. The more I talk, the more I realise a lot of other people are going through the same things. I feel lucky to be able to share the skills Radha taught me.
I'm excited to live life more in the moment and not try to question my happiness. I hope to keep applying what I have learnt and continue to build on those skills.
I would say trust that it can get better. Radha taught me about a flower withstanding rain and storms. You can endure tough things, but sometimes it takes a bit of help at first. I found it hard to accept help, but I don’t regret any bit of it. Let someone help you. Coaching is empowering, let somebody allow you to feel empowered.
Kenza
“Radha will teach you skills that will enrich every part of your being and life”
'Within a few seconds for our meeting I just knew that I wanted Radha to go on this adventure with me. Months later I know I made the right choice. I felt so seen and understood. Everything she said resonated so deeply with me. She held the space, in which I could just be. With the whirlwind of thoughts and emotions that did not make sense to me, in deciding whether or not to return to my studies. I felt so overwhelmed, that I forgot how to take care of myself. Guiding me through her programme, Radha taught me to give my nervous system a break and return to a place where I felt strong and capable. I am extremely grateful for everything she taught me, which goes way beyond the world of midwifery. Radha will teach you skills that will enrich every part of your being and life.
Sara
“I felt like I was in a long dark tunnel, stuck and unable to find my way out...and then seeing there's a little light getting closer and closer. Then I see it's Radha there with her lantern saying 'come on, this is the way'. It felt like seeing a light in the darkness, it was such relief.”
I felt very stressed, very self doubting, very negative, like I wasn't worth very much. I was struggling with my self esteem a lot. I saw something by Radha on Facebook and I just thought because she's also a midwife she would understand better than a different type of counsellor or coach. Initially I had so many reservations because I just felt like I wasn't worth it. I was very cynical and thought I was beyond help. But then I felt something inside me say I needed to give myself a chance and Radha saw something in me too that helped me to think maybe I could do this. This is a big theme that came out of all our sessions actually.
I felt like I was in a long dark tunnel, stuck and unable to find my way out. Then seeing there's a little light getting closer and closer. And then I see it's Radha there with her lantern saying 'come on, this is the way'. It felt like seeing a light in the darkness, it was such relief.
It's just amazing. I feel like this programme has lifted me out of a pit of despair, for want of a better way to describe it. From feeling like I was broken and not good enough, and that feeling of self loathing and paranoia. It's a very sad way of thinking when I look back at it now. But it's just helped me to look inside my self and reflect on my life so far and accept myself, but also to learn about the way other people think of me as well. Realising that actually not everybody is thinking of me in a negative way, because everybody's got their own things that they're dealing with and to be able to turn things around in a more more positive mindset.
I feel like I've found who I'm supposed to be and like I'm prepared for whatever comes my way. If you're considering working with Radha then just get in touch with her and have a conversation, because it will really help. I almost didn't do it. I'm not gonna lie. I almost didn't as I had so much self doubt. But after having a chat with her and realising I could pay over a period of time rather than in a lump sum, I knew I needed to do this for myself. So, whatever position you're in it's always worth a phone call. It's always worth a conversation and you'll realise that you can be helped, that you are worth helping. It's about just believing in yourself and thinking really seriously about it because it will change your life.
Nichola N
“Throughout my time with Radha I've seen an improvement across the board in so many aspects of my life, not just with work and my confidence. Being in the moment more, enjoying being with my family without having this constant cloud over my head. I'm just feeling lighter and more positive.”
I was feeling really defeated and very anxious all the time. I always had that background anxiety, very self doubting and actually self loathing as well. It was just a constant theme. It was from the moment I woke up till I went to bed. I found Radha through a colleague and it was just like she was inside my head! She seemed to know exactly how I thought and felt. It was such a relief to not feel so alone.
As soon as we had our first call I got a really good vibe from Radha. It just felt right! Financially I did wonder if I could justify spending the money on myself, when you've got a family and other commitments the guilt sets in. But I realised life's a long time to live it miserably, and that then impacts everybody in your family. Plus Radha was flexible, so you didn't have to pay all in one go. I never doubted if it would be worth it. I knew with Radha being a midwife that she understood the culture and the pressures. I was so eager and enthusiastic to get started.
Throughout my time with Radha I've seen an improvement across the board in so many aspects of my life, not just with work and my confidence. Being in the moment more, enjoying being with my family without having this constant cloud over my head. I'm just feeling lighter and more positive. It was just what I needed. I'd done CBT in the past and seen some results in the short term but it didn't last. I know the work I've done with Radha has gone deeper than that and I'm confident I'll be able to keep up the good work and keep building on my progress. I don't know where I would have been if I hadn't of done it. I would have probably ended up being off on the sick with no way to help myself to get back on track, and that's a scary thought to be honest. If you're thinking of getting in touch with Radha than DO IT, because what's the alternative? You're just going to continue down that slippery slope just like I was. And sometimes you just need a little bit of intervention to redirect you, which is exactly what Radha does. She helps to put you on a better path. Thank you Radha, it's been brilliant!.”
Cat L
“You don't need to suffer anymore. You don't deserve to suffer anymore. You deserve to live your best life, and Radha can help you do that.”
I was in a really, really dark and horrible place. I'd been qualified as a midwife for 10 years and if I'm honest I'd struggled for most of it. I'd actually reached out to Radha earlier in the year but never really followed it up again. I think you only really take the reins and feel really to take control again when you literally hit rock bottom and I was at rock bottom when I reached back out to Radha.
She seemed very genuine and authentic, because it's a huge thing to open up and be vulnerable but I was ready and I knew I'd found the right person to do it with.
I've had lots and lots of therapy throughout my life but Radha explained it was about taking myself to the next level, being accountable and taking responsibility for myself. I can honestly say within two weeks of the programme, my life was just incomparable. The change happened so quickly for me. My life was turning around, I was saying yes to opportunities rather than avoiding them because that huge 'what if' anxiety had just vanished. I have developed emotional control in any given situation, no matter how dire it is, I have the power to control the way that I think or respond to it. I never ever thought that was possible.
I was such an emotional person in a fixed mentality but I now know that anything is possible. Anything that I want, it can happen if I work towards it. I feel I attract positivity, no I create it! It's just so empowering!
Working with Radha has changed my life and my families life. It's increased my energy and given me the power back over my thought processes. I love who I am now. And I literally have spent my whole life not loving who I am. It's been the best thing I've ever done apart from give birth at home.
I literally recommend everyone does Radha's programmes. It can literally have massive gains in every area of your life, because it's a ripple effect, you know, so it's just so worthwhile. You don't need to suffer anymore. You don't deserve to suffer anymore. You deserve to live your best life. And Radha can help you do that. It's just been incredible Radha -Thank you !
Emily C
“I just wish that someone had told me all of this 10 years ago and I probably wouldn't have spent so much of my life feeling how I've been feeling. I honestly would recommend Radha's to everybody.”
Before I started working with Radha life was just exhausting. I felt burnt out. I was very anxious, and always worrying about what people thought of me and what I was doing wrong. I was very critical of myself. I'd never wanted to tell my friends or my family to get support but in desperation I'd gone to the GP and tried medication but nothing was really working to help me get to the bottom of what was happening to me and why.
The only way I knew how to deal with the anxiety was to comfort eat. To be honest I didn't realise at the time that I was doing that to deal with how I was feeling. I was making unhealthy choices to cope and as a type 1 diabetic I was putting myself at risk to cope with my anxiety and it really wasn't the best thing for me.
I'd never thought about anything like coaching but I knew a couple of my colleagues had worked with Radha and they'd left amazing reviews and I thought if it had worked so well for them then perhaps it could work for me too. I was at that point where I knew I had to do something about how I was feeling so I just took the plunge.
I knew from the very first chat we had that working with Radha was going to work for me. I just felt supported and heard, even in that first half an hour. She understood where I was coming from and obviously Radha being a midwife too was so reassuring. That she understood the job and how I was feeling. When I started with Radha I had been off work sick for several weeks. I didn't think I was going to be able to go back. I found it very easy to blame work but I realised through working with Radha that I had to take some responsibility for how I speak to myself and how I react to triggers and situations.
Radha has helped me realise that that some of the things I've been doing such as being critical about myself, the people pleasing, the apologising to everyone are things that I've actually been doing most of my adult life and has helped me get to the bottom of why and given me so many practical tools and techniques that have changed so much for me.
Initially I think I was just hoping for a 'quick fix', something to help me get back into work as it was affecting my personal life and my relationship being off work. I never dreamed that in just 8 weeks I could come this far! I do honestly feel like a different person. It's just changed everything! I'm now back at work, I don't feel the need to go off sick any more. I feel like like I'm a good midwife and I can do this! I'm more excited about my personal life as well. I had a lot of social anxiety and it was stopping me doing things like joining the gym to go and exercise with my friends and I found it difficult going out in large groups. Now I'm really looking forward to just having the confidence to go out wherever I want, have fun with my friends do things that scare me a little bit but and not worrying about being judged or what people think about me. So it's made a massive difference in my personal life as well as at work. I feel a happier person, I just feel better. I know can stay as a midwife, knowing that I don't want to give up a career that I worked really hard for. I honestly would recommend Radha's programmes to anybody and I have actively recommend it to people. I have spoken to counsellors in the in the past and I've been listened to but that's not what we've done on the programme. The programme is about learning and coaching and putting methods into into practice to change how I'm thinking.
And it is really just session after session lightbulb moments. Thank you Radha, It's been honestly life changing and I can't thank you enough!
Julie J
“It’s the best money I’ve ever spent. I don’t think I can put a price on overcoming anxiety. Knowing that I can cope with whatever comes my way because I’ve got the tools now and the power.”
I think I’ve spent definitely the last 15 years, probably longer when I think back, just caught up in anxiety, depression, mood disorders. Real effects on my life. I think I feel like I probably lost years of my 20s and 30s just caught up in anxiety. Not being able to do what I wanted to do.
At the point where I met Radha, and I was rock bottom, really. I couldn’t focus on my life, nothing was working, and I couldn’t see a way forward. I came across Radha from a post that had been shared on Instagram and then listened to a Facebook Live that she did and I felt like it was a real turning point. I think I’ve looked for help and support with dealing with anxiety for so many years, and I’ve tried various different things, counselling, medication, CBT. None of it really got me to that point that I could really take back control of my life.
Just everything Radha said seemed to really resonate with what I needed. And I think being a midwife herself as well, I think that really gave me that boost. And I think I’ve been looking for something maybe in the wrong place. And I think what Radha was offering meant I wasn’t necessarily needing to deal with past trauma and things like that. I needed something that could focus me on taking control of my life and my thoughts and where I wanted to go. And that’s why I came to her.
I had huge reservations about starting, even the first phone call that we planned, I didn’t think I’d manage to come on the call because my anxiety was so high. I couldn’t even jump on that call and speak to her. And it was the best thing that she gently persuaded me to come on. It was the best thing I’ve ever done.
I get emotional thinking about it now because I just feel like it’s turned my life around. And I had reservations because I couldn’t see how I could move past that anxiety at the time. It was too consuming. And, and it’s gone. I can say that I don’t suffer with anxiety. This process has completely changed my life. And it’s only been eight weeks, I can confidently say that it has changed every aspect of my life- I feel like a different person. I feel excited and its just the best feeling.
Realising that I’ve got control over my thoughts. I’ve got control over the anxiety, the anxiety has just literally melted away because I realised that I’m more powerful than that. It’s not who I am any more. I just don’t allow it to be there. So it’s just melted away. And so the biggest thing I think is just knowing that I can cope with whatever comes my way because I’ve got the tools and the power. I know bad days are gonna come and bad times are gonna come. But I know that I’ve got the tools to be able to deal with them. It’s not been an easy eight weeks. But each week, I’ve looked forward to coming on the calls, because each week I’ve learned different techniques and different tools. And I think what’s been powerful about it is that it’s made me think about and confront thoughts and ways of thinking that I’ve probably held on to for years, probably since childhood. Thinking that I can’t do certain things or that I’m not good enough to do certain things and various different other issues like that. And it’s been really hard, going back and going inwards, and kind of hitting those things head on to be able to release them.
I would recommend this course to anybody ,it is fantastic. I’m so so happy that I’ve done it as It was completely ruling my life. I couldn’t work properly. I couldn’t function properly. And it was affecting my whole life. So I can’t put a price on that. I think the money has just been insignificant really. Because what I’ve got has been worth so much more. I feel so positive and excited about what’s to come. And I haven’t felt like that for years. I can’t even remember the last time that I’ve genuinely felt excited about my future. And what’s what’s happening now. There’s so many good things I’ve got to look forward to without having to worry about anxiety creeping in because I know it’s gone. If your wondering whether you should do this course then just do it. Just make contact with Radha just make contact, send the email, send the message. Just have a chat because it is the best thing. I can’t explain to people how much anxiety was ruling me at the time. I can’t explain, and in that short period of time that’s gone. It’s just amazing, so incredible. Radha I cannot thank you enough. You have been incredible!
Nichola S
“If you're like I was and Radha keeps popping up and "knocking on your door", eventually there'll be a time when that door opens, jump in feet first and find yourself. You wont regret it.”
I was very unsure of who I was and kept questioning what everybody thought of me. I came across as confident on the outside, but on the inside, I was crumbling in to little pieces in every area of my life- at home with my children, at work, as a friend, as a partner. I'd been through so much in my childhood and then so many things in my adult life too - a marriage breakdown etc. I was somebody just felt lost in this crazy world thinking actually, where on earth do I fit in? And who am I? For years and years I'd been in this constant battle. Reading so many different self help books, going to see the GP for medication. Always thinking “I can do it, I'll be fine. I'm a strong person. I'm confident. I'm always happy. I'm the fixer for everyone around me. I'll be okay”. But I was never actually getting to bottom of what was going on for me. I was forever getting to a certain point and then going back round that loop again. I didn't feel great about myself. I'd put myself down a lot and was never satisfied with my achievements. Always telling myself I wasn't good enough. I'd had enough.
I'd watched Radha from the side lines helping midwives, colleagues of mine giving amazing feedback about working with her and I was drawn to working with her too. I had an initial chat with her but I was convinced she was going to say her programme wouldn't work for me because I thought all this was just a part of who I was. That I was the victim and had to learn to cope with it, but as soon as she confirmed she could help me I knew I needed to do it. To invest in myself.
Working with Radha was exactly what I needed. I was so open and so ready for the changes I've experienced to happen. It's given me the courage and self compassion to just be me. It's helped me give myself permission to be myself. And to know that the right people love me. And the right people will be around me and that's it. I don't need to fit in, I don't need to be part of this group or that group. All I need is to be is me. Showing up authentically and getting the most out of my relationships and doing what I need to do. It's so nice to embrace your own vulnerabilities. Because none of us are perfect. And yet, not every day is going to be a shiny, sparkly day. But that's really nice to know, that that's okay! You can still embrace that. And your environment, your vulnerabilities can empower somebody else. And you just move through into the next chapter as you go along.
My biggest breakthrough was overcoming a horrific hang up I'd had with my step dad. It had controlled absolutely everything about me or a long, long time. The day I had the realisation about it was actually the 5th May, which was international midwife day. And that was actually my stepdads birthday and it had always previously been a day that haunted me. But that day this year everything just fell into place and I reclaimed it as my day for the first time in over 25 years.
I would have paid Radha 3 times over to feel how I feel now without that in my life. It's just empowering, totally empowering. I feel like the world's weight has gone off my shoulders. I'm just happy with where I am at and what I'm doing. I don't have to go and do anything more to try and prove myself. I've always loved midwifery and know this is what I'm meant to do. But I don't think I've ever truly let that sparkle out with confidence. Now I have the self esteem and self belief to do that. That's been the biggest breakthrough.
I now feel on the inside what everyone was seeing on the outside, but it's real! I've realised it's okay to be me, and I've really found who I am. If you're like I was and Radha keeps popping up and like knocking on your door, eventually there'll be a time when that door opens, and you've just got to go in there, jump in feet first and go for it. Don't keep telling yourself it's not right just because you're scared of change. Take that risk because believe me, it's not a risk. It's like the best thing you can do. Jump in head first and find you, for you. You wont regret it!
Halle
“I recognise that the way I thought, which I had done for years, had been holding me back from experiencing life to the fullest. For me, this process has been transformational
Before I started working with Radha I was close to taking a break from my degree as I felt overwhelmed with placement and academic work. I contacted Radha as I could not see a way forward in my midwifery career. My confidence and self-esteem were extremely low, I dreaded placement, and I knew I needed support to continue with my life as a student midwife. From the first initial meeting I began to see light at the end of the tunnel. Just knowing I could feel differently was a huge turning point for me, and I was immediately optimistic about the coming weeks.
Before joining I was most concerned that I was too far gone; I felt so low for so long that I didn’t know if I could feel any differently. This programme has helped me in so many ways. I recognise that the way I thought, which I had done for years, had been holding me back from experiencing life to the fullest. My biggest breakthrough was challenging the negative beliefs I had about myself. I started to treat myself with kindness and compassion, which immediately made a massive positive impact on my life. It was challenging to realise that I could have felt differently about myself a long time ago. Much of what Radha discussed with me seemed so obvious in the moment, yet I had never even considered it before our sessions.
For me, this process has been transformational. I feel more connected and in control of myself, my thoughts and beliefs. The knock-on effects are huge – I am socialising more, physically caring for myself, finding new hobbies and passions. Before starting this programme I wouldn’t have believed this was possible. Now I am finishing my dissertation and I am applying for jobs which I wouldn’t have previously thought about. I am genuinely exciting about my future, and feel confident that I can cope and learn from whatever happens next in my life.
Danielle
“If you feel like your life’s not going in the right direction for what you need and you feel like there’s something else that’s missing, or if you feel like you’re lacking in self worth, or self esteem, you definitely need to do the programme”
Before I worked with Radha I was very stressed. Blaming other people for the things that were happening to me, rather than taking responsibility for the things that I was doing or rather not doing, I spent a lot of time overwhelmed. I was keeping myself in the mindset that I was in and in my comfort zone. I can now change the way that I’m thinking and I can reframe it to a better perspective. I had no fear that this process was going to work. The only reservations I had were more about me and how I would implement it and what it would bring out in me, who I was going to be in the end. To get rid of the beliefs that you have about yourself is a very daunting thing when you don’t quite know where it’s going to end up. I felt like it was working for me as the time went on but I actually can’t believe how far I’ve come in just 8 weeks. I’m checking myself and my emotions all the time. I’m subconsciously putting things in place to avoid those old types of downward spirals. I’m know I’m going to have more belief in myself in future to to achieve the things I want. Working with Radha is easy as she fits the sessions around your life, she’s really flexible and easy to talk to. It will help you to have a better understanding of how your thoughts affect you. I’m going to be promoting this to everyone left, right and centre because it is an amazing programme. It’s presented in a way that is just incredible and how Radha works to help you to visualise the ideas and concepts that she’s explaining is amazing. I don’t think I could ever put it into words how grateful I am Radha. Thank you!